In Bruce C Hafens talk “Covenant Marriage” he speaks of three wolves that are detrimental to marriages. The three wolves were natural adversity, our own imperfections, and excessive individualism. I believe that the third wolf that he spoke of excessive individualism is particularly detrimental to our society. There is such a cry for people to find out who they are and to not let anyone or anything define who you are. We cannot belong to anything because then we lose our individual identity. This line of thinking goes against everything that marriage should be about. When two people get married they are forming a union. They are becoming one. Elder Hafen states “The adversary has long cultivated this overemphasis on personal autonomy, and now he feverishly exploits it. Our deepest God-given instinct is to run to the arms of those who need us and sustain us. But he drives us away from each other today with wedges of distrust and suspicion. He exaggerates the need for having space, getting out, and being left alone.” Satan has convinced us as a society that needing or wanting to be with a person means that you are a weak individual. He wants people to think that marriage is for weak minded people and that if marry you give up yourself and this can’t actually make anyone happy. We must constantly be seeking out what we need and focus on ourselves. This kind of thinking can break a marriage and keeps people from even entering into marriage. We need to fight against this wolf in our marriages.
We need to nurture our marriages and keep the Lord and the center of our marriages. When we serve our spouse as Christ served others then we can have much in our marriage
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