The Little Things

                                                   
The principle of turning toward one another goes right along with the scripture in D&C 64:33 “"Wherefore, be not weary in well-doing, for ye are laying the foundation of a great work. And out of small things proceedeth that which is great." It is the small things that we do in our marriage that will make it a great marriage. It is taking an interest in our spouse and helping them in small ways.  For example, last night I was tired but it was my turn to clean the kitchen. We had a late night and I still needed to read with my son, as well,  before he went to bed. As I was reading with my son in his room I could hear someone cleaning the kitchen.  When I came out of my sons’ room, my husband had cleaned the whole kitchen.  It didn’t matter that he had just cleaned the kitchen the night before or that he had a long day at work. Little acts like this help us feel loved and appreciated.  It brings a couple closer together.  By my husband doing this it helped me want to find a way that I could help him out in some way.  It is little things like this that start to add up and make a difference in our marriages and how we view our spouse.  John Gottman in his book “The Seven Principles for Making Marriages Work said “Turning toward operates under a law of positive feedback- like a snowball rolling downhill, it can start small yet generate enormous results.  In other words, you don’t have to turn toward your partner in a very dramatic way to see the benefit” Turning toward another helps build a strong relationship. This helps us fortify our relationship so that when hard times hit our marriage will be able to with stand problems.  Turning toward one another helps us build trust in our marriage, we know that we can rely and trust our partner.  We also develop the habit of turning to your partner when you need help.  What are some of the small things that you do that help a great marriage come to pass?