Our marriages are sacred. We should safeguard them doing everything necessary to protect them and keep them strong. It is easy to fall in the trap of thinking you could never be unfaithful to your spouse or your spouse could never be unfaithful to you. We never know what lies ahead of us in our marriages. It is an excellent idea to have a plan in place to help safeguard your marriage. You must ensure that you stay far from anything that is even close to infidelity. I think as a husband and wife it is a good to have a conversation about what each feels is appropriate relationships with opposite sex. While one spouse might think its fine to chat with people of the opposite sex online or texting, this might cause the other spouse feel uncomfortable. Together as a couple set boundaries that both parties are comfortable with. And then stick with those parameters. If something comes up that requires you have to break those parameters. Let your spouse know about it as soon as possible. For instance, if you are at work and you have to stay late to work on a project alone with someone of the opposite sex, let your spouse know what is going on and then do the work then leave. Do not linger or share intimate details and feelings with your co-worker. It is a good idea to avoid being alone with someone of the opposite sex when possible. Going to lunch alone with someone or spending many hours alone at the office is setting yourself up for possible trouble. Although things start off innocently a closeness can rapidly develop. We must make certain our relationships outside of our marriages do not allow even a hint of romance in them. President Benson told to us avoid flirtation of every kind. Goddard in his book Drawing Heaven into Your Marriage informs us that “behaviors that seem innocent (i.e., missionary work, doing good, helping in some capacity)” is the first step to unfaithfulness.
After we have set parameters and decided that we will carefully avoid the very appearance of evil. The best way to safeguard your marriage is to deepen your relationship with your spouse. Make sure you spend time together. Have fun together, go to the temple together, and pray and study scriptures together. Be kind and generous with your spouse. Discover ways to help them feel loved and appreciated. Goddard is his book sums it up nicely he says “Those who resist the lure and guile of Satan, those who honor covenants, those who tend the little garden of their own covenants, will enjoy sweetness in this life and rewards unmeasured in the world to come.
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